Friendships . . .

Life has taught me to be very jaded and cautious when dealing with people. This has manifested itself in me having a very limited numbers of friends. I've been fortunate to have two ready-made best friends in my sisters, and a husband I call friend. I spent the first 18 years of my life searching for the BFF or the all-girls clique that I read about in my Baby-Sitters Club and Sweet Valley High books. It wasn't meant to be. At age 11, I had the pleasure of meeting my brother from another mother, my bestest guy BFF, Richie B.

I don't acknowledge his role in my life often, but he was my confidente and closest friend for a very long time. We talk about twice a month now-- you know how it is when you get older and someone moves away or begins to have kids. He knows ALL of my secrets-- LOL {even read one my diaries {yes I still keep a journal, 2 acutally}}. He wasn't what I wish for, but he is perfect.

Our High School Senior Portraits

My Wedding Day

My mother sent me this email and it is the catalyst for this post. I know it is a common saying that people come into your life for a reason and this poem speaks to this. Don't have the source.


People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. 

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
You have expressed. 

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with
Guidance and support, 

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. 

They may seem like a godsend and they are. 

They are there for the reason you need them to be. 

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, 

This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. 

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. 

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire
Fulfilled, their work is done. 

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. 
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
Come to share, grow or learn. 

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. 

They may teach you something you have never done. 

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.. 

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, 

Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional

Your job is to accept the lesson, 

Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other
Relationships and areas of your life. 

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. 

Thank you for being a part of my life, 

Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.  

 I pray Daniella finds that someone who she can call friend outside of her family. A relationship that allows her to just be. To just be free of envy, jealously, and contempt. As an African-American woman I know how hard this is to foster a relationship like this. And I know that my Lil D will have a harder time of it because of her lighter skin, and straight hair. I just hope and pray she will have enough of her father's personality to be a true alpha female and not be boogled down by the bullshit that often comes from trying to "fit" in a group.